A New Year Objective

I prefer objective to resolution. It seems to me more definite somehow. Resolving to do something often leaves too much room for prevarication. You can even argue that a first objective would be to make no more New Year resolutions; just set an objective and get on with it while your motivation is strong and fresh. Why not by-pass the resolution stage altogether? The thing with objectives is not to…

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Keep it Simple

One of my all-time favourite human beings, Leonado da Vinci, said ‘simplicity is the ultimate sophistication’. I think what he meant is that simple is cool – that is chilled and quietly efficient. If you think about it there are endless examples which demonstrate clearly how true that is, from the obvious design, art and writing, to the less obvious, like managing and expressing ourselves. Our problem is that we…

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The Backs of Things

I enjoy all train journeys, but when travelling on suburban trains I really like seeing the backs of things. The country side is always absorbing and sometimes beautiful, but the backs of buildings and hidden gardens are unknown and fascinating. In contrast to the carefully presented fronts, the backs reveal their true design. Like the old brickwork, with its colours and cracks exposing their age and structure and the pieces…

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Expectation will ruin your life

Expectation and disappointment go together. The more we expect the more disappointed we are likely to be when things don’t work out. Experience they say is what you get when you don’t get what you want, so logically that particular experience should teach us not to expect so much. But does it? Most of us are brought up and conditioned to expect certain results from certain actions and it rarely…

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Expectation will ruin your life

Expectation and disappointment go together. The more we expect the more disappointed we are likely to be when things don’t work out. Experience they say is what you get when you don’t get what you want, so logically that particular experience should teach us not to expect so much. But does it? Most of us are brought up and conditioned to expect certain results from certain actions and it rarely…

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Proud?

What did you do today to make you feel proud? I am not talking about running a half marathon or decorating your lounge single-handed, but the apparently little things, like holding a door open for someone, or getting a stranger to return your smile. Don’t get me wrong. Marathons and decorating are things to be very proud about, especially when they are firsts and you were making it up as…

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Thinking is Overrated

  Thinking Is Overrated Have ever wanted to switch off your brain and give your mind a rest? Are you sometimes just tired of thinking all the time? Would you like to mentally relax and be calm and rational more of the time? Of course you would and so would we all. The secret is to stop thinking so much. That may sound obvious and easy but it does require…

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Are you a lazy man?

Have you given up the will to live, physically, emotionally or spiritually, perhaps because you are confused about your purpose in life? Is it depressing you?

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Colour Your World

So you think it doesn’t matter what colour clothes you wear, or the colour of your wallpaper or your website? Well, actually, it does. A lot.

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Too much to do?

Too much to do? Life Coaching, for whatever reason, is about getting you from where you are to where you would like to be. I will work with you to discover and clarify both, so that you can move from one to the other with complete confidence and focus.   A major problem for many people is having too much to do in too little time – or so they…

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Be Glad to be Alive

When you arise in the morning, think of what a precious privilege it is to be alive – to breathe, to think, to enjoy and to love. Marcus Aurelius Antonius

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Are you searching for Peace in your life?

True peace comes from seeing yourself and others as we really are and learning to love and forgive all. It is not easy and may take a lifetime, but it is worth the effort. In the end there is no point in doing anything else.

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Would you like a different life?

Changing your life means first changing the way you think. Find out what you really want and focus hard on that. It will be a challenge, but your thinking will change and you will be different.

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Afraid of being wrong?

We are human and we will make mistakes. When we do, intend to do a little better next time and allow others the time and space to do the same. They are human too.

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Would you like more energy?

You already have far more than you know, but you may be wasting it on anger and resentment? Why not use it to strengthen what is good about you and your life? Relax, enjoy and let your energy build and flow naturally.

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Why are you still dissatisfied?

Something deep inside you is in conflict with what you are doing. Unless you go there and check it out you will never know what it is and never put it right. Go there now and find out.

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Ever wondered what would happen if..?

Complete the following: What would happen if..? Or, what would not happen if..? Whatever you are undecided about, add it to the question and think about it. If your world would not come to an end, which is usually the case, the answer will be well worth considering.

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Do you want to be free?

True freedom comes from looking honestly at your life, deciding to live it fully and by doing something about it. We are all born free, with the capacity for goodness and happiness. Do not let your busy life rob you of your freedom. Take the time to develop and enjoy it. It is your birthright.

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Changing your life takes time

Do not try too hard. It is a lifetime journey that you are on and you cannot force the pace or walk someone else’s path. Become clear about yourself and your worth. Accept the evidence of your own eyes and ears and listen to the call of your own heart. Then set your goals and act, based on reality. There is no other way to a genuine life.

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Does your life lack meaning?

Life does not have any meaning of its own. It will just happen to you if you let it. What gives life meaning is individually making the effort to make the most of it.

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Would you like to really know yourself?

Just allow yourself to! Don’t worry. It is permitted and it is nothing to be afraid of. You are much better to know than you might think. You are also allowed all your feelings so let them out and get to know them too. If you bury them and hide from yourself you will learn nothing.

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Is your life disappointing you?

The best way to avoid disappointments is not to expect so much. Be optimistic and positive and expect the right things of yourself, but leave it at that. Don’t try so hard. The right things will come. You will appreciate what you do get and feeling grateful will bring more of the same into your life!

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Are you stressed from thinking too much?

Suffering arises when we do not understand ourselves and we think incorrectly about our life. It is not the events we live through, so much as the way we think about them which is our real problem. Stand back, relax and be objective – and do not think so much.

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Is it difficult to make decisions?

That is because you are afraid of losing your options because you believe that they are all of equal importance. They are not. Be realistic and sort out the priorities amongst them and focus on them, one at a time. The remainder will fade away.

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Are you aware of yourself?

Just sit for a while and relax. Still your mind and let go of your worries and frustrations. Be aware of the calm internal self which remains and is always there to sustain and guide you, if only you can remember to stop and check it out. That is you in there so stop and say hello.

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Afraid to be open?

Have the courage of your own tenderness. Dare to be open, patient and ready to share love and you will be loved in return.

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Follow your heart

Listen to what your heart tells you. Concentrate every day on what you actually want to achieve. Plan, take action and wait. Don’t let impatience spoil your dream.

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